“Everyone Has a Plan Until They Get Punched in the Mouth”

“Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the mouth.” - Mike Tyson So, it didn’t work out the way that you wanted.  You applied ED or EA and the University of your Dreams made the egregious error of not admitting you.  What happens next?  I love this season because for many of my students this is the first time in their lives that it didn’t “work out” and character is revealed in what happens next. Of course I love the celebrations as well, but I rarely have doubts that one of my little cherubs, my unique snowflakes will find a home.  I just think that there is so much opportunity in the conversations that can happen when the decision is “not now”.  I don’t mean any of this to sound callous.  I obviously want the best for all of my students, but I tend to think that many of my students are already in a good position before this process even begins.  I say this because they have people in their lives who are invested in them and that, to me, sums up the need for counselors.  … [Read more...]

Deadlines, Parents, and Rec Letters, Oh My!

Fall is officially here and college counselors are in the thick of the busiest time of the year.  Early Decision and Early Action deadlines are looming, parents are becoming more anxious, and the amount of recommendation letters we need to write are piling up.  Yes, it must be October! As someone with limited prior experience with any type of early application deadlines, this has been an eye-opening experience. I’ve quickly had to become well-versed in the differences between Early Decision and Early Action.  I’m a bit surprised to see how many students are applying early these days—I remember changing my mind 10,000 times between visiting my first college campus junior year and the end of senior year.  I ultimately decided what college to go to on April 28—only 3 days before the May 1 National Candidate Reply Date!  (Trust me when I say April was an excruciating month for me and my parents. I was the epitome of an indecisive, anxious teenager. Come to think of it, not much has … [Read more...]